Sex with your partner is one of the best ways to connect, feel close, and intimate with each other. It also has some great benefits for your health! Unfortunately, for some men, lasting long during bed might be an issue. This issue is known as premature ejaculation, and it is a condition that affects approximately 30% to 40% of men at some point in their lives. Lasting longer in bed is something many men want to do for their partners. Dr. Faysal Yafi offers some proven tips that can help extend your time in the bedroom and help ensure your PE doesn’t interfere with your sex life forever. Below are some tips that can help.
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1. Try More Foreplay
Foreplay is an amazing way to get the juices flowing (literally) and helps relieve tension between you and your partner. For those that don’t know, foreplay is the act of adding excitement to the bedroom and preparing your partner for intercourse. Foreplay is essential for couples, with one study showing that 40% of married women have an orgasm when they engaged in one to ten minutes of foreplay before sex. However, it isn’t just women that can benefit from foreplay.
If you have performance anxiety, which can lead to premature ejaculation, foreplay can help reduce this anxiety and help you get ready for sex. Best of all, foreplay doesn’t have to be difficult or a chore. There are lots of fun ways you can incorporate foreplay into your sex, including:
- Using toys to help stimulate your partner
- Playing a game of sex dice and feeling your partner in different ways
- Talking with your partner and use dirty talk or simply praise your partner romantically
- Massage each other or use oils to get the mood going
Using foreplay can help delay your orgasm and allow you to last longer in bed when you finally do penetrate your partner.
2. Practice Edging
Edging is a relatively new term that describes the act of delaying orgasm and stopping stimulation just before climax. For some men, edging is a way to enjoy a more powerful orgasm when they do finally achieve orgasm and finish. Other times, edging can be used to help prolong an orgasm for a female partner and help both partners enjoy sex longer. In addition, men with premature ejaculation can also benefit from edging, since it teaches them to stop an orgasm and prevent them from finishing beforehand.
There are many ways to practice edging in the bedroom. Some ways you can practice edging with your partner include:
- Continue penetration until you’re close to climax, and then, pull out and stop all thrusting and penetration for at least 30 seconds.
- When you’re about to reach climax, pull out and have your partner squeeze the tip of your head and shaft. This is known as the “squeeze method” and is a proven technique that can help men with PE last longer.
- Have your partner change intensity levels when you feel you’re going to climax. For instance, if your partner is riding you in reverse cowgirl and you feel your climax coming, have her stop riding or ask her to slow down to increase ejaculation times.
3. Try New Positions
Trying new positions is another great way to improve your ability to last longer and spice up your sex life. While you might have positions that you love, consider which positions contribute to you finishing quicker. For instance, if you and your partner have an affinity for doggy style, then try changing to missionary or trying a position that doesn’t stimulate you as quickly.
Reverse cowgirl is a good position to try, since your partner will have full control of the depth of insertion, rate at which you thrust, and will also be able to control the sex as she pleases. Not only is this a good position to help you last longer, but it’s also a great way for your female partner to feel empowered and enjoy better sex.
In addition, you can also try using oral sex as a way to balance your intercourse. Try using more oral if you feel it’s less stimulating, yet still pleasurable during sex. Mixing up different positions can help your partner feel satisfied, help you both try something new, and help you last longer.
4. Use Pelvic Floor Exercises
Many people mistakenly think that pelvic floor exercises are only for women. On the contrary, men can enjoy the benefits of Kegels, or pelvic floor exercises, just as much as women. Pelvic floor exercises can help men manage incontinence (meaning the urge to pee) and the urge to ejaculate. It’s also better for improved sexual health.
To conduct pelvic floor exercises, find a comfortable position either sitting or standing. Envision you need to pull your penis closer to your body, and contract this muscle in the pelvic area until you feel your genitals pull in slightly. Remember, the effectiveness of this exercise doesn’t depend on the number of times in a row you do this, but rather how long you hold this contraction.
Hold this contraction for three seconds, and then release for three seconds. Repeat this exercise for 10 sets, but hold off if you feel uncomfortable. You should aim to try this exercise around three times a day, but don’t be discouraged if you can’t last for this many sets. If you’re new to this exercise, it will take time to learn how to do it properly and enjoy its benefits.
5. Use Numbing Gel or Spray
Numbing gel or spray is another great way to enjoy longer-lasting sex. This spray and gel are easy to use, and can be applied directly to the penis before insertion with or without a condom. The numbing spray is usually made of a mix of lidocaine and benzocaine, and pramoxine among other ingredients. These ingredients are safe to use and can help prevent you from being overstimulated during sex, helping you last longer during intercourse.
Strive for Better Sex Today
You and your partner deserve to enjoy longer-lasting sex. Using these tips above can help you enjoy more meaningful and pleasurable sex that lasts for hours. Improve your sex life and mood with a few simple changes starting today!